Topic: Let me help you with your islamic sexual education. Halal and Haram for Spouses

[chocolate]

Is it true that after having intercourse, husband and wife should not get engaged in something else without taking ghusl e janabat otherwise they will get Laanah (dislikeness) by angels?

[blm2007]

First of all, thanks a lot to brother Sami to have posted such an informative fact.I was also very much confused about the Halal and the Haram thing during sex.But after reading your post, some of my queries got properly answered.

But I am still worried about one thing.You said if the women has her period going on then penetration is Haram.But I have seen many times in my life that both the husband and wife getting into intercourse excitedly even if the women has her period going on.They both don't seem to be bothered at all.So what you are gonna say about that?Are these people doing the right thing?

And about the Anal thing,I am still very much worried because I have seen most of the Muslim couples still doing this for their pleasure even after knowing that this is Haram.So what they should be doing and how they shall be treated?

I would really appreciate if those queries are answered.

Sahih Bukhari

Sahih Muslim

[kzia]

I originally wrote this as an answer to a shy sister about to get married and who wanted to know what is halal and what is haram on sex-related issues (Oh yes, there are still some women on earth who come to marriage as real virgins with no previous sex experience...)

I wrote:

Sex you mean?  :oops:
 
I love your subtle way to handle such questions.  :love:
 
Here goes a basic set of rules especially written for you  :welcome:
 
Where there is just cuddling and kissing between the spouses, no need to do Ghousl.
Where there is ejaculation, the partner who ejaculated must do Ghousl to be able to pray. If she has her period, then she is OK.
Where there is penetration, both must do Ghousl, irrespective of ejaculation
If she has her period, penetration is Haram.
Kissing, licking, and so on is OK, anywhere, including private parts of the body as long as one does not swallow wax or semen or the like.
Oral sex is not Haram, but he must not ejaculate in her mouth. If there is any liquid coming out, she must not swallow that.
Any position of intercourse is OK.
Anal sex, penetration in the anal orifice called anus is Haram at all times no matter what.
 
If you still have any questions, please do not hesitate.
 
N.B. Ghousl means having a full body shower, Haram means islamically speaking a sin.

Assalamu ^alaykum Sami.

Dear brother I have a query and was wondering if somehow I could send you my request privately.

Barak Allahu Feek.

Your brother in Islam

[Sweely]

Thanks for the information guys!

[amar_labedi]

Assalamalikum wa rahmatullahi wa barkatuhu

Mashallah nice to know sexual etiquette s  in Islam
It will be a matter of great pleasure to me if you will kindly let me know in detail do's and don's in sexual matters.

Jazakallah
amar

[smoothcriminal]

If the husband is not allowed to ejaculate in wife's mouth, then is the wife allowed to ejaculate in husbands mouth?

Is the use of any sex toys permitted?

[muslimworldorder]

is it permissible to give your wife an oral pleasure?

[rabzo]

Can a husband and wife use a vibrator at least? Just for sexual fun? ok even if not for penetration, use the vibrator to excite his wife's clitoris? Why can't he ejaculate in her mouth?

[lilichat]

hi,

I am muslim and married for 20 years i have chronique pain which make my intercourse pain my husband want me to have sex in back passage "anal sex" i would like to know if is it haram, he told me is not as they said in surat el baqarah so please tell me ... other things sometimes when i have sex with myhansband i feel nothing but it happened to me to masturbat after so also i would like to know if that haram.. thanks

[FutureAndAHope]

Just out of curiosity I had a look at this post to see what you guys actually think. I am a Christian not a Muslum. I will share with you want our God thinks about issues like this.

Firstly we agree marriage is the only place for sex. Note the following verese from the bible:

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. - Heb 13:4

There seems to be a lot of confusion here about, what is permissable and what is not. In my opinion based upon my knowledge of God I say all things are permissable if they are done in love, i.e. both members ofr the couple are willing, i.e. not under compulsion. Love is to consider the other one, to show kindness to each other. The bible is full of verses  asking husbands to cherish their wives, and for wives to respect their husbands. Coming back to what is permissable note the verse from the bible below:

So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves. - Rom 14:22

Christianity is not about rules it is about freedom, freedom from fear, the devil would have us fear all sorts of things, and make every thing difficult to do. The devil makes us think that if we don't do x, y and y God will hate us. But in reality God is a very good God. He gives freedom to his people to make choices.

Obviously you can't, murder, steal, take revenge, harm others; becasue God is love, he is compassion, he is gentleness. He does not care what we do in all the other areas of life as long as we are showing love to people. I mean seeing this is about sex, I don't let my wife do oral sex to me just becasue I feel it is degrading, unclean, but if she wanted to I would not say you can't, the bible says the wife has the power over the husbands body to do with it as she pleases, and like wise the husband over the wife, i.e. they are not to deprive one another of sex. Some people do that, punish others by refusing them sex, but God is loving, and does not want us punishing one another, but rather getting rid of all bad attitudes toward our partners, by allowing his nature of complete forgiveness to be worked with in us.