Topic: A Muslim marrying a Hindu

[farrah]

Assalamoalaikum :bros and ,
 My daughter will be marrying a Hindu boy. How to handle this? How to tell my Muslim friends? How to stop people talking behind my back?
Is this marraige going to bring bad name for me and my family?
What should a Muslim do or say when he sees another Muslim is married to a Hindu?
How should we tackle it, Islamically as well as  human beings when the marriage has already taken place?

I need ur help. Thanks. We live in USA.

[curioustraveler]

This can be fixed, just calm down and really look at this hindu boy and determine if he can be a good pious muslim. After he submits to Islam help him with his tajweed and allow him some time to learn about islam. Muslim people do not talk about others behind their backs so don't worry about that.

[farrah]

This can be fixed, just calm down and really look at this hindu boy and determine if he can be a good pious muslim. After he submits to Islam help him with his tajweed and allow him some time to learn about islam. Muslim people do not talk about others behind their backs so don't worry about that.

I am not satisfied with this answer.

[syd]

  i guess i wont be able to give a satisfactory answer either, but as far as i know, marriage between a hindu boy and a muslim girl is unacceptable in Islam anyway! until ofcourse the boy has converted...and only then does he become eligible for nikah! u should have taken a fatwah from some alam before u went for it! and i hope it isnt a civil marriage that u have in mind..it is not recognised in Islamic shariat either!! for the rest, may Allah guide u towards the right solution to ur troubles and have His mercy on u!!
and what curioustraveller said that muslims dont talk behind other people's back...i still have to find such muslims! we muslims have a vast tendency to do exactly as is disliked in our religion!!!

[farrah]

i guess i wont be able to give a satisfactory answer either, but as far as i know, marriage between a hindu boy and a muslim girl is unacceptable in Islam anyway! until ofcourse the boy has converted...and only then does he become eligible for nikah! u should have taken a fatwah from some alam before u went for it! and i hope it isnt a civil marriage that u have in mind..it is not recognised in Islamic shariat either!! for the rest, may Allah guide u towards the right solution to ur troubles and have His mercy on u!!
and what curioustraveller said that muslims dont talk behind other people's back...i still have to find such muslims! we muslims have a vast tendency to do exactly as is disliked in our religion!!!

The main question is: If  a girl of a Muslim family is already married to a Hindu guy,should the family try to break the marriage? Should the family refuse to accept it? Should they boycott? It is not something I want to hide? In USA we are helpless in many matters. The Guy has No Religion himself but parents are Hindus. How should I face my Muslim  friends? Being a mother I do not want to speak ill of my daughter . I need strength to face it, to accept it.

[syd]

  please dont be offended by anything that i might say...im not authority on anything...and the last judgement, of course, lies with Allah!!
for starters, there is no marriage between these two if  the guy is non-muslim or an atheist...a muslim girl has to either then consider herself excluded from the mainstream islam or else she has to convert the boy so that there is s validation of their nuptials..otherwise, nikah between a muslim and a hindu (and atheist for that matter too) doesnt exist...
i think that as a family, we ourselves only know wht line of action works and what dsnt...but as a muslim, its ur duty to at least tell the girl what is the status of her marriage in the eyes of the family, who like to practice the dictates of Islam...at least do ur duty, and show that u dislike that which is disliked by Allah and our religion...dont be an accomplice! boycotting the girl? i guess, verbally u already might be doing it but potentially, how long do u think the child will survive without family...difference s arise in married lives, somebody will have to be there then!!
and ur right, as a mother u have to accept ur daughter, but remember that u might forgive/accept  her, but neither the world nor afterlife will remain a bed of roses...one day this mistake will ricochet...as a mother ask ur daughter to 'think' about converting that guy, if he is sincere to continue a relation, he will do it or at least think over it...even if he does tht on superficial level! Allah is the best judge of any one's imaan!!

[farrah]

please dont be offended by anything that i might say...im not authority on anything...and the last judgement, of course, lies with Allah!!
for starters, there is no marriage between these two if  the guy is non-muslim or an atheist...a muslim girl has to either then consider herself excluded from the mainstream islam or else she has to convert the boy so that there is s validation of their nuptials..otherwise, nikah between a muslim and a hindu (and atheist for that matter too) doesnt exist...
i think that as a family, we ourselves only know wht line of action works and what dsnt...but as a muslim, its ur duty to at least tell the girl what is the status of her marriage in the eyes of the family, who like to practice the dictates of Islam...at least do ur duty, and show that u dislike that which is disliked by Allah and our religion...dont be an accomplice! boycotting the girl? i guess, verbally u already might be doing it but potentially, how long do u think the child will survive without family...difference s arise in married lives, somebody will have to be there then!!
and ur right, as a mother u have to accept ur daughter, but remember that u might forgive/accept  her, but neither the world nor afterlife will remain a bed of roses...one day this mistake will ricochet...as a mother ask ur daughter to 'think' about converting that guy, if he is sincere to continue a relation, he will do it or at least think over it...even if he does tht on superficial level! Allah is the best judge of any one's imaan!!

The situation here is like this. Your child just tells you,"Mom, Here is the guy I am going to marry whether you approve of him or not".

[syd]

i honestly wish there was something i could say to help u, in anyway! i can only pray for u!

[farrah]

i honestly wish there was something i could say to help u, in anyway! i can only pray for u!

Thank you bro, Yes, Let us pray. Let us all pray from OUR HEARTS.

Many things are wrought by prayers than thsi world can dream of.

Please, all pray  for the situation. Many Muslims are facing it and have no other choice but to accept it.
My Allah will make the stuation as as in our best interests.

[syd]

  may Allah help u in ur predicament and solve it in a way thats even better than u can desire, ameen!!!

and im a sister... u know what, ive always been mistaken for a brother on this forum...and its kind of interesting really...anyway may Allah bless u with His mercy and benvolence, ameen!!